Going seperate ways can feel good

I ran into a friend/former lover the other day, and as usual, our banter led to a conversation, which led to us spending the evening (just the evening) together.

I told him about this dating thing I've been doing, gave him a recap of the best dates and interesting aspects of my interactions with these beautiful men.

He was impressed and really wanted to know how I was managing not to get attached and pursue the "instant relationship" (which I had with him). I didn't really have an answer except that now I realize that if I decide to be exclusive with somebody it will be a huge gift to them, not one I will give away so easily (as I had with him).

Clearly, we are extremely attracted to each other. I used to think I couldn't resist him. But, it felt great to just spend time together with no need to cling to that great feeling, and go separate ways. A milestone.