"Which way the ship is headed"

I had dinner last night with a great friend who I hadn't spoke with in a while because he moved out of town. It was lovely to see him and catch up, lot's to catch up on! He told me about some major events in his life, and I told him about the break up of my marriage and subsequent goings on, especially the interactions with men.

He liked that I had made up my mind to find my life partner and he is now on a similar track, pursuing celibacy. He said if he was going to take the plunge, it would be for good so it had better be the right partner.

When I told him I was doing eharmony he said he prefers "free-range women," meaning out in the field and not in cyberspace. Ha!

He also said something I really paid attention to- he doesn't appreciate women making sexual advances when he makes it clear that he is not pursuing that. He said it's frustrating that he is trying to do the right thing, but women continue to tempt him to go astray.

Likewise, I have been shocked by how respectful men have been since I have become clear on where I am at on sex; ie I don't want to go there outside of a relationship with longterm intentions.

When I told him that, he said, "yeah well it's nice to know which way the ship is headed."