My cousin and I just had a conversation via Facebook IM. We made tentative plans for Thanksgiving at my aunt's house.
Our planning tends to be tentative.
She's on my Mom's side of the family and most of us on that side have a preference for open-ended plans, and they're almost to the point of being non-commital. It used to drive my ex-husband crazy. Ha!
I have a friend at work who has a similar outlook on planning and we've been discussing the aspect of commitment in forming loving relationships lately. Does it mean we're not doing the right thing by being non-committal? What does it mean to "be there" for someone?
Christian Carter recently said something in an interview that speaks to this. He said that you need to be able to rely on someone (for it to be a committed loving relationship), but you have to be able to fulfill your own needs when that person isn't able to. They aren't going to be able to every time - they have their lives to live, too. He said that is what being inter-dependent means (I assume he meant in opposition, or in contrast to "co-dependent").
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